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<\/span><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28<\/p>\n
Everyone faces disappointments in life, both big and small. Unfortunately, many of us choose to complain and whine about our problems to the immense irritation of others.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s important to acknowledge our disappointments and not just ignore them, but how do we do it effectively without being a nag to others? The answer lies in learning constructive ways to acknowledge disappointments.<\/p>\n
Disappointment can build character and patience if you allow it to. Learning to deal with your disappointments constructively can make you a stronger person in the end.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n Coping with Disappointment<\/strong><\/p>\n The first thing you need to do in learning to deal with disappointment is recognized your old coping strategies. Everybody has them. Do you reach for the pint of ice cream or withdraw into a room all alone? Do you get drunk and try to forget?<\/p>\n Once you recognize that your old strategy isn\u2019t working, it\u2019s time to create a new one.<\/p>\n Here are 5 tips for effectively dealing with your disappointments:<\/strong><\/p>\n 1.\u00a0Acknowledge what you\u2019re feeling.<\/strong>\u00a0You can honestly express the emotions you\u2019re feeling without blaming or punishing others. This is about how you feel about the\u00a0situation,<\/em>\u00a0not others. Articulate your feelings without attacking others. Always be respectful, but don\u2019t be afraid to let them know how you feel.<\/p>\n There isn\u2019t a right or wrong way to feel.<\/strong><\/em>\u00a0Your feelings are valid and if you don\u2019t voice your opinion then you\u2019ll harbor resentment and stress yourself out. Be honest with yourself about how you really feel about the situation.<\/p>\n 2.\u00a0Put things in perspective.<\/strong>\u00a0Even small disappointments can seem monumental at first. But once you\u2019ve expressed your hurt, frustration, or anger, take a step back and look at the bigger picture. How much of an effect is this disappointment going to have on you tomorrow, next week, or next year?<\/p>\n Take a deep breath and go for a walk to put your disappointment into perspective. Taking time to reflect and step away from the situation will help calm your nerves so you\u2019ll be better able to handle the disappointment.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n 3.\u00a0Refuse to doubt yourself.<\/strong>\u00a0Sometimes disappointment can make you feel like a failure. You may wonder why these things happen to you or you may think you were stupid to get your hopes up in the first place. But none of that is the truth. Don\u2019t allow yourself to give in to these negative thoughts!<\/p>\n Disappointment is not unique to you.<\/strong><\/em>\u00a0Everyone has been disappointed at some time in their life. Instead of getting down on yourself, think about what could have been done differently and learn from the experience.<\/p>\n 4.\u00a0Look for a solution or compromise.<\/strong>\u00a0You can\u2019t have your way all the time but sometimes there may be a second option that\u2019s agreeable to each party.<\/p>\n Take a few deep breaths, relax, and look for the \u201csilver lining.\u201d <\/strong><\/em>It\u2019s possible to find something positive in almost every situation.<\/p>\n 5.\u00a0Reevaluate and make changes if necessary.<\/strong>\u00a0Sometimes when we experience disappointment, it may be a sign that we need to re-examine our priorities. Depending on the degree of disappointment you\u2019re facing, you may need to make minor or major changes to your life.<\/p>\n Learn to be flexible. <\/strong><\/em>Refocusing your attention on your new goals will help you forget about your disappointment.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t Give Up<\/strong><\/p>\n Any person who has had even a small degree of success in life has faced disappointments.<\/p>\n Winners simply don\u2019t quit. <\/strong><\/em>They learn from their failures and disappointments and go on to achieve their goals.<\/p>\n You can become your own biggest motivator! Don\u2019t underestimate the power of encouraging yourself by saying,\u00a0\u201cI can do this. I can make it. I will get through this and become a better person!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n You don\u2019t need to allow disappointment to lower your self-confidence. That\u2019s not to say that you need to gloss over your feeling, but you can simply learn how to deal with your disappointments effectively, then move on to bigger and better things.<\/p>\n About the Author:<\/strong><\/em>\u00a0Victoria Finch, The Heart Healer is an International Speaker, Author, and Transformational Life Coach. Victoria helps faith-centered professionals remove self-doubt so they become more confident, connected, and make more money. \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n
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